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Should parents smack their children?

Smacking is a method which is used by parents to educate their children. When children make wrong something, their parents will smack them. They think that smacking will help preventing their children from bad behavior. From the old days until now, parents usual apply this method with their children like the best way to make the children develop in personally. Parents usually use smacking with children without caring about another method which is better than. So, do you think parents should smack their children? Smacking is good method to educate children, isn’t it? For me, I don’t think so. In my opinion, if parents smack their children, it will take shape lots of bad impression in the children’s mind .I believe that we have other methods which help educating children better than smacking children.

Smacking is a method which makes children avoid of bad behavior and action because they afraid of being smacked rather than well aware of something is wrong. When children make mistakes and don’t obey, their parents scold and smack them instead of giving advices, reminding, listening their thinking. Why don’t parents listening their children’s opinion and desire? Children claim money to nosh and play games, are in the habit of aping the grown-ups, lazy to go to school or mischievous who are spanked by their parents that demonstrate the parents is always right and the children are always wrong. Parents use smacking as an effective tool to punish their children. If the children don’t submit their parents, the parents will hit harder and harder until the children’s hand is so sore, and then the children accept for sorry. I think the best way is listening and helping them share their opinion and expectation. After that, parents explain for their children understand how a good behavior is and help them improve a bad or wrong action. However, most of parents say that “It is very difficult to explain verbally to a young child why something they have done is wrong”. Yes, it’s very difficult or say another way it is a challenge when parents want to help children develop their personally. Nonetheless, if parents love and respect their children from the heart, they can find out appropriate methods which help them more understand their children. In addition, don’t use smack not means use total verbally, when parents explain verbally to children who don’t understand, I think you need supplement some skills from books, newspaper or experience from others.

Smacking is an outdated form of punishment that can cause long-term physical and mental health problems. A children were more pessimistic and complex than those never hit by their parents because the impression of being smack make the children always afraid of doing something wrong. When parents smack their children, it usually leaves marks in the children’s body; therefore, the children feel ashamed in front of their friends. If smacking leaves marks is serious, children can’t make relationships with because they are inferiority complex. Besides, they don’t confide in their ability. They are very easy to accept another person’s ideals instead of wanting to effort to give their ideals. In addition, smacking cause negative effects such as antisocial behavior and mental development, violence and depression. But, some parents argued that “I can’t help smacking because I want children to remember their mistake a long time”.  Parents don’t know that smacking can lead children to develop behavior problems such as being more aggressive rather than remember mistakes because the children especially a child too young to aware of what should they study? Thus, children will easy to study how to hit other children and interact into other relationships with siblings and peers, and eventually a spouse and offspring. All this things are real dangerous for social. . So, effective way of teaching children is not to do something that is dangerous and hurtful to them.

I have never felt like I would like to smack a child even though I am not a patient person in the world. I think that we should spend time for children to educate them properly method, you don’t need to smack them.  I believe that family will be a training camp for teaching children how to handle conflicts without violence.